Did you ever think you will find love online?
Rahu: I just tried online dating for the first time after the pandemic hit. I was working from home and had zero prospect of meeting someone outside. But somehow, it all happened for the better. I still thank my stars for joining the app; I ended up meeting my soulmate on the platform.
Shanaya: I had been using QuackQuack for quite some time. Before meeting Rahul, I went on some dates with people I met there, but it ended there. My family started asking me to get married and that’s exactly when I met Rahul. I think it’s quite possible to find love online. It isn’t much different from real life; these are real people with real feelings. Online or offline, it will work only when the time’s right.
How different is online dating from finding love around you?
Shanaya: The scope of meeting someone online is far greater than when you are dating someone in real life. I mean, how many people can you check out in a day in the real world without looking like a creep? In dating apps, you will be spoilt for choices. If you are browsing through an average of five profiles a day, at least one of them will be compatible with you, or who knows, one of these people will turn out to be the love of your life.
Rahul: The proverbial dating field is much wider when you are dating online.
What are some of the things you don’t like when dating online?
Rahul: Sometimes the profile picture can be a tad bit deceptive. They don’t all look so perfect with mile-long lashes and rosy cheeks. I am not complaining; even I edited my picture to look slightly more ripped. That’s one more thing that drew me toward Shanaya. Her display image was absolutely unfiltered; she has this tiny scar on her forehead and she did not care to edit it out.
Were you putting up your perfect side while dating online or via texts? Or were you your true self?
Rahul: We all want people to see us as perfect individuals, especially when you are looking to score a date. And before you know someone on a deeper level, there’s no point in opening up about your flaws. Like almost all the daters in the world, I, too, presented the perfect side of myself. But over time, Shanaya got to know the real me and I don’t know what made her like me enough to stick around! Hahaha!
Shanaya: I was this little miss perfect who is all prim and proper; I am not sure if I was going for that, but at least that’s what Rahul says he thought of me when we first spoke. I think being your true self with someone requires some amount of familiarity.
Can you tell us what your dating bio was about?
Shanaya: I love travelling. I always wanted to date someone who shares the same interest; my bio mostly described the same passion. I think that’s why Rahul chose to match with me; he has the same love for travelling.
Rahul: My bio said, I am not ripped or shredded; I am bearded and tattooed; I love travelling so let me know if you have any plans. It was simple but true.
Is connecting over online dating apps as exciting as meeting someone in a physical space?
Rahul: Yes, I would say so. In fact, the excitement of speaking and having someone new in your life is stretched out even more when dating online. You have butterflies while sending the first message, getting back a reply, getting to know the person, understanding that you are falling for each other, deciding to meet in person one fine day, and suddenly, you are completely in love. This process is truly beautiful!
Shanaya: Online dating is a blessing for me as I fear meeting new people. I tried going on one blind date once and it didn’t go well. But Rahul and I had a video date first and then met in real life. That’s what brought out the magic.
What drew you to your partner online?
Rahul: To be honest, I saw her profile picture, and her smile had me hooked. I went ahead and checked her bio. Her interest in travelling and adventure made her look like a good match.
Shanaya: He is funny and it was so evident in his bio. And I thought this guy is honest; that’s more than you can ask for on today’s date.
Did you come across any fake profiles or false identities online? Any tips to tell if a person is real or fake?
Shanaya: I wouldn’t say I came across any fake profiles as such, but some people pretend to be who they are not. Some profiles might look fake, but it’s not necessary. People might put up random images because they are simply worried about their privacy; I would say, listen to your gut.
Was it love at first sight when you both met or did you take your time getting to know your partner?
Shanaya: No, for me it was not love at first sight; Rahul says it was for him. He was thoroughly impressed by my display image. Honestly, I was not so sure about him at first, but the more I spoke to him, the more I was drawn to him. After a while, chatting with Rahul was the highlight of my day.
Do you feel taking chances or a ‘leap of faith’ is very important to get to where you are right now?
Rahul: Absolutely. Anyone in a relationship or in love would tell you that they took a chance. You meet a person, see how compatible you are, evaluate your chances, make a pro and con list and in the end, chuck it all out and follow your heart. That is it!
Shanaya: I agree with him. I took a chance on him and see where we are now!