A relationship expert and dating coach has shared the five changes you need to make now to date successfully after the age of 30, and why channeling your ‘feminine energy’ is key to securing a good match.
Matchmaker Louanne Ward has more than 28 years of experience in helping men and women find their ideal match without needing to use dating apps.
She said, however, that there are five ‘little tips’ women in their 30s have to pay attention to if they want to be successful in the dating world.
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A relationship expert and dating coach has shared the five changes you need to make now to date successfully after the age of 30, and why channeling your ‘feminine energy’ is key to securing a good match (Louanne Ward pictured)
Louanne (pictured) said you need to remember as a woman that you don’t have all the time in the world as you have a biological window, but the same isn’t true for men
‘Ladies, if you’re in your 30s and you’re dating, please pay attention to these five little tips,’ Louanne said in an Instagram video.
‘Number one is you don’t have all the time in the world. Biologically, you have a window.’
The second tip relates to the first insofar as if you’re wondering why your choices seem limited, Louanne said it’s ‘because men simply are not in the same rush that you’re in’.
It’s important to remember this if you’re in your 30s and going on dates, wondering why the man is refusing to commit.
The five changes you need to make to date well after age 30
1. Remember you don’t have all the time in the world: Biologically, remember you have a window.
2. Men aren’t in the same rush: If it feels as if men aren’t in the same rush as you when dating, then remember they don’t have the same pressures and time constraints.
3. Don’t wait for perfection: Holding out for a man who meets all of your requirements is not a strategy.
4. Choose the right man: Choose the man who you want to build a relationship with, rather than waiting for them to choose you.
5. Get out of your masculine energy: Instead of running off masculine energy where you’re capable and powerful, channel your feminine energy and your more vulnerable side as this is more attractive and captivating.
Source: Louanne Ward
The third tip Louanne highlighted is that you shouldn’t wait for perfection, because there is no such thing.
‘Holding out for a man who meets all of your expectations is not a strategy,’ she said.
‘Number four is that you need to choose a man you want to build a relationship with rather than waiting for a man to choose you.’
Most importantly, the dating coach (pictured) said you need to get out of what she calls your ‘masculine energy’ and instead get into your ‘feminine energy’ which is more vulnerable
Finally – and perhaps most importantly – the dating coach said you need to get out of what she calls your ‘masculine energy’ and instead get into your ‘feminine energy’.
‘You’re capable and you’re independent and while you are running your life like that, you’re in your masculine energy,’ Louanne said.
‘It’s more powerful and it’s more captivating to be in your feminine energy.’
She said you should never be afraid to show your vulnerable side when dating, and this doesn’t mean you’re ‘weak’.
‘We’re talking about vulnerability enough to share who you truly are and to express your desires for wanting to take on a feminine role,’ Louanne said.
Louanne has a 28-day dating reset program that has been designed to break the cycle of ‘attracting the same sort of men’ and encourage you to meet people in real life.
Louanne (pictured) previously revealed why you should avoid saying ‘I don’t have any expectations’ on a date
Previously, the relationship expert, who has developed a huge following online for her dating tips and advice, revealed the five simple words singles should stop saying if they want to find ‘the one’.
Louanne knows what makes men and women tick, but claims eligible bachelor and bachelorettes are unintentionally driving their perfect match away.
The Australian dating expert and matchmaker took to Instagram to share a video explaining why both men and women should avoiding saying: ‘I don’t have any expectations.’
According to Louanne, the statement pushes people away and is ‘a bit of a lie’ and an ‘orange flag’ when dating.
She noted the statements people make while in the beginning stages of dating could be misinterpreted, causing challenges in your dating life.
On Instagram, Louanne questioned if it’s possible for someone to date without any expectations, and if there’s a ‘hidden meaning’ that could be an ‘orange flag’.
‘These little lies aren’t big red flags but they are certainly orange flags and can give you an insight into where your date is at emotionally and if they are wasting your time,’ she said.
Particularly with online dating, singles usually have the bare minimum expectations that their date will look like their photos, be who they say they are and arrive to the first date on time.
‘When you hear this what it probably means is, ‘I’ve been rejected so many times [and] I don’t hold out any hope that this is going to work’,’ she said.
‘You’re probably dealing with someone who’s quite a jaded dater and they’re never that fun to hang out with.’
She also warned your date may have no intensions of wanting a relationship.