4. Go Out More
Going out can surely help you navigate a breakup. I have noticed that we feel most burdened by grief and loss when we are alone and idle.
Going out reduces our idle time. It gives us some time to enjoy ourselves and, of course, get used to our own company.
During a relationship, we spend quite a considerable amount of time with someone else, almost forgetting what it means to spend time with oneself.
Spending time with yourself, going out on travels, etc., will help you love your own company more.
5. Talk to Safe Persons
Sometimes, you will just have to speak to someone about how you feel. Don’t just speak to anyone. Speak to safe persons.
The concept of safe persons is discussed in detail in the book, No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover. Safe persons make it easy for you to understand even your own feelings.
Sometimes, we may not understand what we are feeling until we talk about them.
Do not succumb to the temptation of going on social media to rant about your feelings. It almost never helps.
6. Invest Time in a Hobby
A hobby is an activity you love to do. Many times, doing it comes with a feeling of ease. Hobbies make us feel eased. You should invest time in your hobby.
What is the one thing you do that makes you feel happy? Spend some time doing that activity. If it is reading, then read more. If it is writing, write more. If it is exercising, you should exercise more.
Whether or not writing is your hobby, writing can help you navigate your own feelings.
7. Have Honest Conversations with Yourself
The goal is to navigate a breakup and come out stronger. Stronger means happier. It means more success. It means an increase in the strength of character.
It means being you.
You will not be all of these if you do not have those hard but very necessary and helpful conversations with yourself.
Tell yourself the truth. Be honest about how the breakup has affected you. Acknowledge that you are at a crossroads and that your next move is one that will make you stronger.
8. Review Your Goals
When we are in a relationship, a lot of our choices and actions revolve around our partners. When they cease to be our partners, it is only right that we make amends to these goals.
Your goals should be honest answers to some hard questions written in a journal:
- Do I want to find love again?
- What would I do about my career?
- What do I want from school?
A review of your goals and plans, if done right, can surely motivate you to go out there and be the best version of yourself. There are at least a thousand stories about people who went on to change their lives shortly after a breakup.
9. Be Patient With Yourself
Everything may not get back to being what it used to be overnight. This is where patience comes in. Your new life goals may be hard and seemingly impossible. Just give it time. It is always worth it in the end.
10. Join Luxy
Sooner or later, you will come to accept that it is time to find love again.
One of the places I would want you to look is called Luxy.
It is far from being your regular relationship service, as the people would meet here are influential and able to help you become better and stronger.
You can always come out stronger, even if the breakup threatens to damage you.
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