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- Dating coach Mia Fields says some people tend to move too quickly after meeting someone.
- They romanticise a few good signs to make it seem like they found the right one for them.
- If you’re feeling continually drained or heavy by being with someone with hardly any laughter, that person is likely not the right partner for you.
We have all been there, right? Obsessing over relationships we think are right for us and only find after tears, sleepless nights and heartache that they are not. Sometimes it feels right to be with the person because your feelings say so while people around you are thinking, ‘what is she doing?’
Dating coach Mia Fields says some people tend to move too quickly after meeting someone, romanticising a few good signs to create an entire picture of the person based on their own desires, which doesn’t always equate to reality.
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Here are signs the person is right for you, according to Mia:
GOALS
You both have the same relationship goals because a relationship will not be healthy or successful without this. You can have similar values but different relationship goals.
This is why it’s so important to establish your relationship requirements before meeting a guy. Get clarity around their thoughts on children, money, religion, politics, career, relationship roles and life expectations. It is all part of being intentional when dating.
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FEELINGS
Their words and actions make you confident that they genuinely interest you. Most importantly, the person makes you a priority. You are included in their plans and future, and they take the time to listen, motivate and support you to be your best. As a result, you feel safe with them and can open up knowing you have someone who genuinely has your best interest at heart.
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ALIGNMENT
Having the person in your life aligns with your idea of happiness. It is crucial that anyone you choose to include in your life adds to your happiness and does not detract from you leading a fulfilled life.
You smile more, and you do more things. You look forward to seeing and being with them. If you’re feeling continually drained or heavy by being with someone with hardly any laughter, that person is likely not the right partner for you.
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Mia says to pay attention to the red flags or little warnings that something could be wrong. You should not allow the person’s good looks, material possessions or social or professional status to override the absence of key non-negotiable requirements.
Sometimes people may consciously or subconsciously avoid being honest with themselves because they desperately want a specific outcome.
