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Emily Ratajkowski has spoken candidly about dating, love and sex during the first episode of her podcast High Low.
The 31-year-old model, who recently split from her husband of four years, actor/producer Sebastian Bear-McClard, revealed how long she waits before being intimate with a new partner.
‘I’ve been thinking about this a lot because it speaks so much to power dynamics and sex on the first date is the ultimate example of that, because you’re dealing with gender dynamics in such a specific little vacuum of a moment,’ she shared.
The mother-of-one added: ‘I think if you’re not ready to be vulnerable, that is a reason not to have sex on the first date.’
She said she hates when a date gives off a ‘I hit that’ vibe, regardless of whether she’s had a ‘fun night’ and doesn’t ‘care’ if she’ll cross paths with that person again.
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Ratajkowski continued: ‘Even if they’re not the kind of guy who would say that out loud but you can just feel it. That’s a reason not to sleep with a man.’
The newly single My Body author clarified that she’s ‘not looking for love necessarily’ but desires more than just sex.
‘I go on these dates and it’s not like I’m going to sleep with someone and then I’m more vulnerable to fall in love, but I feel more,’ she explained.
‘If I don’t sleep with them, I think about them less. I can forget them in three days.’
She asserted: ‘I think the conclusion we’ve come to is that you should do whatever the hell you want to do.
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‘But knowing what it is that you want to do is really hard. That’s the hard work.’
The Gone Girl star confessed to making the first move on a recent date when she felt the urge ‘to be kissed.’
She recalled: ‘I kind of grabbed him and kissed him.’
Ratajkowski remembered her date responding: ‘This is the kind of feminism I can get down with.’
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Ratajkowski, who in a September TikTok video referred to herself as ‘a recently single person who is thinking about dating’, spoke about post-split life in a November cover interview with Harper’s Bazaar.
‘I can tell you that I have never been single before,’ she told the publication.
While she wasn’t on dating apps – at least then – she joked ‘but give me time’.
Ratajkowski revealed: ‘I have gone on dates,’ but admitted to changing her approach to relationships, having reflected on her dating past.
‘To use the TikTok phrase, I was a bit of a “pick-me girl” in the sense that I wasn’t very good at deciding what I liked,’ she shared.
‘I really wanted to be chosen. It was hard for me to go on a date with someone and think about how much I did or didn’t like them.
‘I would have been thinking about how they were perceiving me, what it meant, what they wanted from me, what it meant about my self-worth. I don’t have that anymore. So now it’s really fun to go to dinner with someone and be like, “Cool. I really enjoyed these parts of them. I really didn’t like these other parts.”‘
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Ratajkowski married her ex in a civil courthouse ceremony in New York City on February 23, 2018.
The former couple share one-year-old son Sylvester Apollo Bear together.
